If you have difficulty with this stuff, don’t worry.
The sad truth is that most people have difficulty with this, no matter how beautiful it may appear.
And why don’t these incredible people see their own worth?
They’re trying to EARN it, when it’s impossible.
Achievements, new levels in fame, pay rises, helping others, and buying nice items can all make you feel good for a while , But, like any drug, it fades quickly and you need more to feel normal.
And, deep regrets about past actions and decisions can make it difficult to move forward years even though you cannot change the past. This kind of regret can actually prevent you from growing and correcting your past mistakes so you don’t repeat them in the future.
If you believe that there is something fundamentally wrong in you, it will destroy your self-worth. This level of shame can convince you that you’re fundamentally unworthy …
…Maybe someone did something to you or something happened to you and you interpreted it as a message that you’re not worthy of respect.
…Maybe someone BLAMED you for something and you internalized it.
…Maybe you were told a certain thing a long while ago. You just kept believing them, instead of telling your true story.
Do You Have a “Dislike Button” in Your Head?
Sometimes, past social rejection can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of more rejection and even more pain.
You expect or suspect rejection, so you use your body language to express your fear. The other person “rejects” you because it is uncomfortable. After that, you feel “rejected”, and you confirm your beliefs …
The sad fact is that, most of the time, we hold ourselves back.
If you are unhappy with your appearance, you can have corrective surgery, get fitted, and wear clothes that make it look better …
Yet, even when you do those things, you’ll never look perfect.
The fact of the matter is that no matter what you do, you’ll never be perfect. If you feel the need for perfection, you will never feel good enough.
You won’t meet this impossible standard.
If your goal is to be the best, you will eventually fall into the pit of self-loathing.
Comparison Leads to More Self-Loathing
You might end up putting down other people, judging them harshly or gossiping about others to feel better about yourself. Then regret it later and feel worse about yourself.
And, if you have to feel like you’re “better” than other people to feel good about yourself, you can only feel comfortable around people you think are worse than you, meaning that…
… The people you want to surround your self with are the people who have the best business opportunities, the people that you feel most connected to and the people who will help you grow.
You’re stuck right where you are.
Also, if you don’t think you deserve to feel good about yourself for one reason or another, people will avoid you and hold back their validation from you to match your own self-appraisal, leaving you struggling for any source of feeling good you can find every day of your life.
External Validation Hamster Wheel
Some people turn to food…or drink…or drugs…or sex…or “working very hard “… or sports…or people-pleasing…or achievements…or anything in between. There are many ways to soothe the pain rather than solving the root cause.
But, the truth is that You deserve to feel good about your self as much as any other person.
Yes. Even if you make “horrible mistakes”, you still have some “flaws” or maybe you are not a good person.
The truth is that nobody has ever done enough or behaved well enough to “earn it” in human history.
This is why unconditional acceptance of yourself is the foundation for ultimate success, happiness and fulfillment. It also means that you can treat everyone better than you deserve.
And if you are worried it will make your arrogant or lazy, it won’t.
You’ll be able to value others more than you currently do and have greater success.
We’ll discuss why in a moment …
But, this foundation is essential. Everyone around you will suffer, not just yourself.
Acceptance of yourself as you are now is the most important thing. However, you must ALSO strive to grow and learn.
Because the truth is that genuine self-worth cannot be earned; you can only give it to yourself.
That’s why it’s called self-worth.
The best thing about is that you can self-validate at any time for any reason, or none.
And that’s the only way to feel good about yourself consistently because everything else is subject to the changing whims of the external world.
Ironically, you actually achieve MORE if you have a solid foundation in self-worth. You stop sabotaging your own validation as a person when it isn’t.
You can achieve more and go higher.
You feel happy every step of your journey instead of struggling to find external validation.
Break Free Today
You are kind to all people you care about, and even those who don’t. You don’t feel the need judge harshly about anyone.
People want to be with you more, because they have more to offer and know that they won’t get judged.
Potential lovers are more attracted and stay attracted longer to you.
It takes less energy to be there for you, because no one ever feels the need or desire to make you feel better …
… This means you have more options and a better feeling inside each day.
So, what is the solution to these 2 major obstacles and a few smaller ones that prevent us from achieving FREEDOM?
How can you feel good about your self without becoming a cocky, arrogant, jerk, lying, ignoring reality or killing your motivation?
The Solution…
What’s the secret of being confident and not being too cocky?
Comparison-free self-validation.
If you worry about being “cocky” and “arrogant” when you start to like yourself more, it’s because you assume that valuing your self more is valuing others less.
But, if you stop comparing yourself with others, you will find that you are as amazing as they are without having to compete with you.
In fact, they will be lifted up by your new level self-belief.
You’re not better or worse than anyone else; you’re just awesome.
This is the ideal attitude that we strive to cultivate.
The truth is there is an inexhaustible amount of value out there, so taking what you want for yourself does not mean that you are denying anyone else.
You don’t need to compete for it anymore.
You can now give it to yourself, and then share it with others.
Now, you can relax and live the life that you want without needing approval from others.
This is not fake confidence ; It’s a new way to live.
When your cup is full and you don’t need external validation, there are so many more things you can do for the world.
Your real value in real life goes up.
It’s the best for everyone, not just you.
How can you actually start validating your self in a real and honest way?
That’s what we cover inside The Validation Switch Program:
http://brainheal.jimwolfe.hop.clickbank.net/
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