I don’t like being told what do. I have never done that. Many people tried to make me feel ashamed. My untamable heart makes me proud and happy to be me.
Let me show you … examples. In an age where women make money from women hating their bodies, I made the bold decision to love and accept my body as it is.
Instead of relying on men in power to grant their “big break,” I will fund my own dreams in newer and more creative ways with no permission from anyone.
In a music industry where men make money from women being stereotypical, I decided to refuse to be limited and do whatever I like. They will be uncomfortable, no matter what. They want me not to voice my opinions, to change my hair color, to wear the appropriate outfit, and to sing the songs they have chosen. Instead, I will be louder, more bold, wear whatever I like, play the music I created and produced, and not care about what others think.
As a woman, I feel that we are constantly told to fit into boxes to make others more comfortable with us. This is not what I was designed to do. You weren’t either.
What if we were not put here on this planet to shrink and grow? Instead, to grow and be the best version of ourselves. What if we were given the opportunity to be the most fearless version of ourselves? My Instagram bio asks me the first question: What would your life look like if you were not afraid? That’s what I would like to hear from you. What would you do if you didn’t fear anything? What would people think? Of failure? What is holding you back? Let me know …
All of my music is about me trying to conquer the question “What would you do if fear wasn’t a factor?” Because it scares my, I change up the genres that I listen to. Outfits that make me frightened are what I wear. I create media pieces, shows, and art that scare me. We become great by facing our fears and refusing to be contained in boxes.
Adderall is a song I wrote about being abused by and manipulated by someone trying to convince me that I was a part of a group. You can listen to it here. They wanted me to shrink because that was what made them more comfortable. Instead of encouraging me overcome my fears and to make my best self, they told me to shrink to make me more appealing to the rest of the world. That’s exactly what happens to many of us. It’s not something I accept. You shouldn’t either.
What do you think? Are you able to identify with the need to conform? What would you do if fear wasn’t a factor? Are you already doing it? What steps can you take to make your life more adventurous, bolder and wilder? Leave a comment or a message below.
We love you so much. -EMM
Listen to ADDERALL here …. Special thanks to Taylor Wilzbach and ZOE for creating this video/song with me.
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ADDERALL LYRICS
VERSE 1 Take a look at You are looking for ?A way out From what you’ve done
You are the victim, I’m the villain
PRE CHORUS You point your trigger finger Paint the picture as if it were me As your buried deeper You bite the hand that tries reaching, Reach So
CHORUS It’s the cocaine that is to blame.Blame it all on adderall Blame it all on the champagne Don’t be so hard on me It’s the cocaine that is to blame.Blame it all on the alcohol Blame it Don’t be so hard on me
VERSE 2 We are .All , is on the other side.I built a wall Still you try To keep climbing into my life However, I feel the knife .
Pre Chorus Chorus
POST CHORUS Don’t blame me, ah
Don’t Blame MeDon’t blame me, ah You can’t blame me!
BRIDGE It’s all because of the way I speak .It would be because of the way I dress .I’d be sorry if things went wrong I’d be mad at you if you created the mess Tell everyone it’s your fault Talk about me with your friends You can keep runnin your mouth But you won’t ruin my reputation
Chapters:
0: 00 Introduction
0: 12 The Truth About ADHD Masking
0: 34 Masking ADHD during childhood
1: 09 Common examples for ADHD Masking
1: 49 ADHD Misadvantages
2: 44 Unlearning
3: 38 Conclusion
Hello! Hi, my name is Alice. I founded The Mini ADHD Coach in August 2020 after I was diagnosed with ADHD at 29..
After years of therapy, questioning, burnout, and career path changes that were chaotic, I finally understood why my struggles with many things.
So I decided that I would share my knowledge to help raise awareness about ADHD and to help the ADHD community thrive.
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ADHD Masking: The Truth.
People with ADHD may not feel comfortable around people who do not have the disorder. As a way to avoid being judged or stigmatized by society, people with ADHD may hide their symptoms.
Masking doesn't always develop in adults. Sometimes, it can be learned in childhood. Sometimes parents and other adults would tell us to "pay attention" and "stop fidgeting". Children with ADHD symptoms discover that they are not safe to be themselves, so they use a mask as a survival tool.
Masking can also be caused by the misunderstanding of ADHD. Because we might be labeled as rude or strange, it is difficult to be yourself around people with ADHD. What does ADHD masking look in different situations? These are just a few examples.
Sometimes, when someone speaks, we can't focus on the details or listen enough.
Sometimes hyperactivity can be disguised by pretending calmness. In reality, our minds jump from one thing to the next, so we don't have time to process what's going on at the moment. To fit in at social events, we might try to imitate other people's behaviour. To be able to fit in, we may try to mimic other people's behavior. It can be exhausting to mask our symptoms, and the disadvantages of this practice far outweigh their benefits.
Masking can lead to delayed ADHD diagnosis. It's easy to hide the fact that we don't recognize there is a problem. A psychologist can give us an official diagnosis that will help us get the right treatment plan.
Anxiety and depression are another danger of hiding stress. The stress we keep in our bodies can cause anxiety and depression.
We are not capable of being our true selves and expressing what we really feel. Sometimes we may feel like we are becoming someone else because of our masks.
Credits
Animation: John Norman Santos
Sources
Cuncic, A. (2021). What is ADHD masking? Very well Mind. [ )
Enright, J. (2021). I was so wrapped up in my mask that I lost myself. Medium. [ )
Rogue Neuron (n.d.). ADHD Spotlight: 7 Things You Need to Know About Masking Rogue Neuron. [ )
I don’t like being told what do. I have never done that. Many people tried to make me feel ashamed. My untamable heart makes me proud and happy to be me.
Let me show you … examples. In an age where women make money from women hating their bodies, I made the bold decision to love and accept my body as it is.
Instead of relying on men in power to grant their “big break,” I will fund my own dreams in newer and more creative ways with no permission from anyone.
In a music industry where men make money from women being stereotypical, I decided to refuse to be limited and do whatever I like. They will be uncomfortable, no matter what. They want me not to voice my opinions, to change my hair color, to wear the appropriate outfit, and to sing the songs they have chosen. Instead, I will be louder, more bold, wear whatever I like, play the music I created and produced, and not care about what others think.
As a woman, I feel that we are constantly told to fit into boxes to make others more comfortable with us. This is not what I was designed to do. You weren’t either.
What if we were not put here on this planet to shrink and grow? Instead, to grow and be the best version of ourselves. What if we were given the opportunity to be the most fearless version of ourselves? My Instagram bio asks me the first question: What would your life look like if you were not afraid? That’s what I would like to hear from you. What would you do if you didn’t fear anything? What would people think? Of failure? What is holding you back? Let me know …
All of my music is about me trying to conquer the question “What would you do if fear wasn’t a factor?” Because it scares my, I change up the genres that I listen to. Outfits that make me frightened are what I wear. I create media pieces, shows and art that scare me. We become great by facing our fears and refusing to be contained in boxes.
Adderall is a song I wrote about being abused by and manipulated by someone trying to convince me that I was a part of a group. You can listen to it here. They wanted me to shrink because that was what made them more comfortable. Instead of encouraging me overcome my fears and to make my best self, they told me to shrink to make me more appealing to the rest of the world. That’s exactly what happens to many of us. It’s not something I accept. You shouldn’t either.
What do you think? Are you able to identify with the need to conform? What would you do if fear wasn’t a factor? Are you already doing it? What steps can you take to make your life more adventurous, bolder and wilder? Leave a comment or a message below.
We love you so much. -EMM
Listen to ADDERALL here …. Special thanks to Taylor Wilzbach and ZOE for creating this video/song with me.
Follow EMM: INSTAGRAM: / TWITTER: e FACEBOOK: e WEBSITE: /
ADDERALL LYRICS
VERSE 1 Take a look at You are looking for ?The way out Based on what you’ve done
You are the victim, I’m the villain
PRE CHORUS You point your trigger finger Paint the picture as if it were me As your buried deeper You bite the hand that tries reaching, Reach So
CHORUS It’s the cocaine that is to blame.Blame it all on adderall Blame it all on the champagne Don’t be so hard on me It’s the cocaine that is to blame.Blame it all on the alcohol Blame it Don’t be so hard on me
VERSE 2 We are .All , is on the other side.I built a wall Still you try To keep climbing into my life However, I feel the knife .
Pre Chorus Chorus
POST CHORUS Don’t blame me, ah
Don’t Blame MeDon’t blame me, ah You can’t blame me!
BRIDGE It’s all because of the way I speak .It would be because of the way I dress .I’d be sorry if things went wrong I’d be mad at you if you created the mess Tell everyone it’s your fault Talk about me with your friends You can keep runnin your mouth But you won’t ruin my reputation
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