Maybe it’s because I’m an only child or maybe it’s because I have ADHD or maybe it’s both that enables me to entertain myself with the characters in my head that sometimes come out to play. This was one such moment. When I arrived at the dog park, I saw no one and my inner black man said “well, there ain’t nobody here” in the most old-timey harmonica playing, “I wrote a song regarding it” kinda way. What does your inner playtime voice sound?
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The next episode (Ep.5) is coming soon! “Was that something I said?” I remember when a friend would introduce me with their friends. Conversations are lively, people are laughing, and then suddenly, I feel a sharp elbow hit me in the ribs or get serious side-eyes from said-friend. I broke the rules of small-talk by “getting to the point”. It’s fine to be direct and hate polite small talk. You don’t have to go into someone else’s head or heart when you can simply take the express way. Right? Right?? Yes, it’s true. What if your radar isn’t able to tell you when your foot is in front of your mouth? You might not be able to pick up social cues until you are scolded by “friends” about how rude and too familiar you are with strangers. You are so “off-putting”. Each quote you have just read is an insult/correction from anyone, from family members to best buddies. And, former best friends. The truth is that your directness isn’t your problem. It’s the other people’s judgments and narrow view of “normal” social behaviour. Normal is people who do not have ADHD, Asperger’s, or other neurodiverse wiring. “Normal” means people who can “boldly”, be direct, “boldly”, state our intentions, and “boldly”, announce their entrance to the room. Miss Manners doesn’t see anything unusual about the way we interact. “Bold” is a polite way to say “there’s something wrong” or “that wasn’t right” or any other insult that can make us doubt our abilities and cause us to lose faith. Can you see it? This is another brick we add to our wall to make us feel less awkward around others who are eager to judge us for being…unique, awkwardly, ourselves.
Maybe it’s because I’m an only child or maybe it’s because I have ADHD or maybe it’s both that enables me to entertain myself with the characters in my head that sometimes come out to play. This was one such moment. When I arrived at the dog park, I saw no one and my inner black man said “well, there ain’t nobody here” in the most old-timey harmonica playing, “I wrote a song regarding it” kinda way. What does your inner playtime voice sound?
