How to Get Less Defensive in Relationships

If we had to make one generalisation about why relationships fail, it would be this: because of defensiveness. Defensiveness is behind a predominant share of the failure of all relationships. The difficulty is that there appears to be no way of escaping the sort of situations that can trigger defensiveness…

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Co-hosts Lynne Edris & Tara McGillicuddy focus on working from dwelling with ADHD. They focus on the uncommon challenges and benefits of working from dwelling with ADHD, and portion vivid solutions to support strengthen your productiveness and work/life balance.

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The Role of Unconscious Shame in ADHD Symptoms

Narcissism and shame expert Joseph Burgo discusses how unconscious shame and defenses against it can play a part in generating ADHD symptoms.

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Anxiety was the most crippling thing in my life. Over the years, I've done a lot of research and studied neurochemically to find out what was happening when anxiety would strike. This Q & A will answer 6 common anxiety questions. I'll also explain the process I use and the logic that you need to master your anxiety. These tips were simple to implement and helped me feel hopeful. You can feel superhuman and achieve your full potential if you take action.

SHOW NOTES
Rehearsing Failure | Tom on why rehearsing failure of what hasn't happened is [3: 07]
Breaking Cycle | 2 steps to beat anxiety with a pattern interrupt and & empower thought [7: 32]
Physical Adrenaline | Tom's experience changing his neuro chemistry with meditation [10: 11]
Breathing | Returning to total calm in 45 minutes or less with diaphragmatic breathing [16: 42]
Social Anxiety | Pattern interrupt & focus on your goal, what others think can't stop you [21: 01]
Generalized Anxiety | Having many triggers for anxiety and anxiety outside of the norm [25: 14]
Anxiety Benefit | Tom explains how mild anxiety can be useful but still gets checked [30: 46]
Physical Tension | When your body gets wired to mental negativity and holds tension [32: 39]


QUOTES:
"We want to use the empowering thoughts as mental jujitsu." [24: 00]

"You will become whatever you repeat." [24: 42]

"because I'm not a born entrepreneur, getting into business was this incredibly anxiety provoking endeavor, the stakes were so high, I felt like I was constantly on stage" [26: 12]

"I began to say to myself, "Let failure surprise you." So when I succeed, I'm never surprised because I've rehearsed the shit out of success." [28: 45]

"I started rehearsing success, and I just said, I'm going to let failure take me totally by surprise if it ever happens" [29: 44]

"Failure" is the most informative data stream in the universe. [33: 32]

The Role of Unconscious Shame in ADHD Symptoms

Narcissism and shame expert Joseph Burgo discusses how unconscious shame and defenses against it can play a part in generating ADHD symptoms.

https://adhdadulttreatment.com/the-role-of-unconscious-shame-in-adhd-symptoms/

A popular prescription drug used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is increasingly ending up in the wrong hands. New data show more people are abusing Adderall across the country and in Hennepin County.

In fact, experts say only alcohol and marijuana are abused more than prescription pills such as Adderall. Many of the abusers are in high school.

"I didn't start really noticing until I was about 15-years-old that I was addicted," said Steve, who didn't want his last name known.

Steve was 8 years old when he was given a prescription for Adderall to treat ADHD.

"It made me very attentive, made me very alert, everything was vivid, more clearer."

But Steve's addiction almost killed him. He overdosed on the medicine that was supposed to help him.

"I had gotten so addicted to them, 30 pills in one day wasn't enough."

Brian Aulwes, prevention specialist with the Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge, often goes out to local schools to talk about the dangers of Adderall abuse. He has firsthand knowledge.

"I think the first time I took Adderall and abused it, I was 14 years old," said Aulwes.

He didn't have a prescription, but that didn't stop him from popping pills. Aulwes said he got the drug from a friend.

"He stole a prescription from his mom."

Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge surveyed nearly 500 students at four West Metro schools. Sixteen percent of respondents said they've abused prescripton pills.

"One of the larger populations of people who abuse Adderall are your academics all stars at a school, " said Adam Pederson, also a prevention specialist with Minnesota Adult and Teen Challenge.

Adderall is sometimes called the "study drug" or "smart pill" because it can help students focus better and stay up for hours, cramming for tests. The pills are also popular because they are easy to get.

Steve said he had no problem getting what he needed, when he needed it.

"It wasn't anything to get them. Doc—these are not doing it, can you up the dose? It was just as simple as that," he said.

But students are not the only ones abusing Adderall. Authorities said it has become a big problem in Hennepin County.

"In 2012 we saw about 15 or so individual cases where Adderall, the prescription drug, turned up in illegal circumstances. which is different from what we've seen in the past," said Hennepin County Sheriff Rick Stanek.

There are a number of side effects to Adderall abuse, includng elevated blood pressure and kidney failure. But the biggest possible side effect is overdosing, which could lead to cardiac arrest, or even death.

Those who've abused Adderall say the lingering effects of the drug can be felt for years.

"Drugs, especially prescription pills, it's just something I can't do, I still can't do it. To this day I won't even take Advil because of what happened to me when I was younger." said Steve.

Sonya Goins, reporting

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